How To Ask A Girl To Be Your Girlfriend

You’ve been spending some time with a girl you really like and you’d like to take things further. Before you make your declaration it is important to be clear about your intention. The question of how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend is completely irrelevant if you’re not even sure if you’re ready for a relationship.

Having a girlfriend for appearance’s sake is a pointless reason. If you really like her and are developing strong feelings of emotional attachment you can safely say this girl means something important to you. Before you ask her to go exclusive and only see you, you’ll need to figure out if she really likes you too.

Get To Know Her

When we meet people we are attracted to there is a tendency to rush into getting involved in a relationship without taking the time to get to know each other. When this happens it is sometimes an unpleasant surprise to discover that they’re not the person you thought they were. Before you go from rapport to connection to relationship take the time to establish trust. Your investment in getting to know each, at this early stage of your ‘relationship’, will pay off later.

Asking a girl to be your girlfriend is a much more natural progression when it comes from a place of mutual trust, respect and friendship. It is better received than a casual remark said to someone you barely know.

Spend Time Together

Once you’re comfortable around each other moving things along requires much less effort. How you choose to spend time together depends on how you met and if you have friends in common. If you have previously spend time together accompanied by a group of mutual friends ask the girl to spend an afternoon or evening just with you. You can go out for a meal or to the cinema or a show. It doesn’t have to be anything too fancy or elaborate.

Insist on paying. If she would rather go halves tell her that you want to pay as it was your idea in the first place. You could also cheekily add that she can pick up the tab next time.

Set Your Intention

Now that you’re becoming more relaxed in each other’s company you will be able to get a better idea of how she feels about you. Although you may want to appear casual how you ask a girl to be your girlfriend will be influenced by the circumstances at the right time.

Your intention will be to ask her in such a way that she won’t hesitate to give you a positive response. When you ask her to be your girlfriend you should also ask her to go somewhere special with you. Being too casual about it will make her think you’re really not all that bothered. Choose an activity that you both enjoy and that also gives you an opportunity to talk afterwards. Even though asking her will be at the forefront of your mind don’t rush into your question. Enjoy her company.

Talk about neutral things and mention how well you get along. This helps you to bridge the gap between ordinary conversation and romantic intention. If she agrees you’ll know it’s ok to take the conversation further. If her reply is indifferent you might want to rethink your approach. Consider delaying asking her until you’re sure about how she feels.

Tell her how you feel

When the mood is good between you tell her how you feel about her. Be honest and sincere. Once you have her undivided attention say something like: “I was hoping we might be able to be something more than ‘just friends.’ I’d really like you to be my girlfriend.”

Accept her answer

Her honest response with either make your spirits soar or it will make them come crashing down. Whatever she says should be accepted graciously.

Yes, please!

• If she smiles and agrees to be your girlfriend enjoy the moment! You can now admit how nervous you were and how pleased you are.

No, thanks!

• If she knocks you back thank her for her honesty, but don’t add pressure. Don’t be abusive or try to convince her she is making a mistake. Accept that she knows her own mind and just doesn’t see you as boyfriend material.

What happens next is really up to you. If she turned you down it’s up to you to decide if you want to continue the friendship. Don’t keep things friendly in the hope that she might change her mind later on. Accept that she doesn’t share your feelings and move on.

If she’s made your day by saying ‘yes’ take her somewhere special so that you can start creating happy memories as a couple.