HER Dating Review

HER is a dating app that caters to individuals who identify as lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, pansexual, or queer. Similar to other dating apps, it features a swiping mechanism where users swipe right to express interest and swipe left to pass. Additionally, HER offers unique features such as social media Communities and virtual events.

One of HER’s notable features is its 30+ social Communities, which enable users to connect with others who share similar interests. These Communities include groups like “Good Vibes Only,” “Lesbian,” “Bisexual,” and “40+ Community.” Users can chat with other members and share photos within these Communities.

Another feature is virtual events, including “Pansexual Speed Dating” and “Holiday Speed Dating.” These events require a ticket purchase (typically $5) and provide attendees with a video link sent via email.

HER also includes a “Rewind Profiles” feature, allowing users to review profiles they previously overlooked or swiped left on.

The app was created by Robyn Exton, who sought to address the frustrations she experienced on lesbian dating sites. HER aims to provide a “safe and inclusive” space for the LGBTQ+ community to connect with like-minded individuals and discover nearby events.

Advantages:

Niche focus: HER caters to a diverse range of individuals including those who identify as lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, pansexual and queer, providing a welcoming and inclusive community.
Free version: HER offers a free version that provides access to many features, allowing users to get a feel for the app before committing to a paid subscription.
Communities and events: HER offers users the ability to join communities and attend virtual events, fostering a social aspect to the app.

Disadvantages:

Limited free features: Without upgrading to the premium subscription, users are limited in their ability to swipe and can only filter by age and location when searching.
Frequent promotions: HER frequently promotes its premium membership to users of the free version, which can be bothersome.
App-only availability: HER is only available as a mobile app and is not accessible through the web.

Overview:

Community size: According to the company, HER has over 10 million users across 125 countries, forming a diverse and widespread community.
Exclusive focus: HER is a dating app exclusively for the 2SLGBTQ+ community to connect, meet, and potentially date.
Success stories: The HER website features testimonials from users who have found love on the app.

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How to Use: To begin using HER, download the app from the Apple App Store or Google Play Store. After providing basic information such as your name, birthday, and email, you’ll be prompted to upload at least one photo and answer questions about your pronouns, sexual identity, gender identity, relationship status, and preferences. The app will then suggest potential matches for you to swipe right on. If both users swipe right, they will be matched and able to message each other within the app.

Additionally, HER offers communities and events for users to explore and connect with other 2SLGBTQ+ individuals who share similar interests.

Cost: HER offers many features for free, including browsing profiles, adding friends, initiating chats, finding local events, and joining social media communities. However, upgrading to the premium subscription can enhance the user experience.

With the premium subscription, users can avoid ads, see who’s online, filter by sexuality, and use the app in incognito mode to maintain privacy. This feature can be particularly helpful for those who have not yet come out. HER’s premium subscription is priced as follows:

One month: $14.99
Six months: $59.99
12 months: $89.99

Fine Print: Users who opt not to upgrade will encounter frequent ads while using the app. If a user upgrades, the subscription will renew automatically unless auto-renewal is turned off at least 24 hours before the current period ends. Canceling an active subscription is not possible.

To ensure a safe and authentic experience for all users, HER works diligently to remove fake people and profiles from the app. The app is also inclusive, allowing users to choose from various pride pins to represent themselves and providing the option to self-describe or skip labels when filling out their profile.

According to Lee Phillips, Ed.D., a psychotherapist and certified sex and couples therapist with service locations in Virginia and New York, HER is a great app for connecting with others to date and offers a community for queer women and other gender diverse individuals. Phillips explains that LGBTQ individuals often experience mental health disparities and utilize mental health services at higher rates than cisgendered heterosexual individuals, and having a sense of community like the one HER provides can have mental health benefits. Additionally, Phillips is pleased to see queer people of color on the app, as they can often feel stigmatized. She believes that HER is inviting and safe for queer women and gender-diverse people of color, and that there is a need for more dating apps for this group.

HER is a great option for those who identify as lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, pansexual or queer, and want to connect with like-minded individuals to make friends or find a partner. With a 4.4 out of 5 stars rating on the Apple App Store from almost 40,000 ratings, it has received positive feedback from users who found both friendship and romance on the app. Many users also appreciate that HER offers free subscriptions to those who have faced discrimination or wrongful bans on the app.

However, some negative reviews mention that there are too many profiles on the app, deleting an account can be challenging, and the app frequently pressures users to upgrade to premium. One user stated, “It’s ridiculous that I run out of swipes and can’t swipe for 14 hours unless I upgrade to premium.”