If you’re a shiksa (non-Jewish girl) who is interested in getting to know and date a Jewish man there are a few tips that can help you to achieve dating success. Unless you are Jewish, or are already familiar with Judaism, Jewish culture, traditions and values, dating a Jewish man will require some consideration.
Jewish men love to date shiksas, but if you want to make progress in your relationship you’ll have to prove that you’re the special shiksa that stands out from all the rest.
1. Common Mistakes
One of the most common mistakes that people make is thinking that there is a Jewish language. Jews do not speak Jewish. They speak Hebrew and/or Yiddish. Whilst your genuine mistake may seem endearing when you first meet a Jewish man you’re interested in getting to know, your lack of basic cultural knowledge is unlikely to impress.
If you’re interested in dating a Jewish man make the effort to get to know something about his culture and traditions. Not only will you have something to talk about but you’ll also pique his interest in you. As a shiksa you’ll also need to learn typical yiddish words that Jews often use in everyday English conversation. Chutzpah, goy, klutz, mentsh, oy vey, shlep, schmmoze, schtick and tuches are common words you are likely to hear.
2. The Culture Clash
Jewish men who are respectful of their religion and faith gratify in tradition, especially tradition that involves family and good food. Jewish families embrace their heritage and your Jewish man is very likely to want to share this with you.
Traditional Jewish holidays, like Yom Kippur in October, start the day before, at sundown, and continue until sundown of the actual day. Yom Kippur is considered to be the holiest day of the year and any social plans you may have around this time need to be scheduled for another day, if you are serious about dating a Jewish man.
If your relationship becomes serious it is important to accept that Judaism is a big part of your Jewish man’s life. Besides his family, a large percentage of his friends are likely to be Jewish so conversion to another religion is non-negotiable for most Jewish men dating non-Jewish girls. Being sensitive to, and aware of, the importance of his culture shows that you are respectful of his faith.
3. Traditions And Values
Jewish families have many traditions that are centred on food and sharing. If you are a confident cook who knows the difference between matzo and challah you’ll quickly impress any Jewish man you are thinking about dating. The way to your man’s heart is via food, like his mother makes, so appreciating and valuing his traditions is important if you want to date your way into a serious relationship with a Jewish man.
The shadchan (or matchmaker) is no longer the only means of finding a suitable love match, for the single Jewish man. Whilst the shadchan still offers a valuable service to devout Jews, most single Jewish men prefer to rely on modern ways of meeting girls. Specialist dating sites offer a convenient way to connect with a mate who is looking for a serious connection.
In Judaism, higher education is considered to be one of the most important values. A Jewish man will be attracted to a girl (shiksa or Jewish) because of her intelligence, as well as her physical charms. If you’re dating a Jewish man let him know that you have brains as well as beauty.
4. Meeting His Mother
All Jewish boys are devoted to their mothers, and they are respectful of family traditions and demands of the faith. A Jewish mother ideally wants her son to meet a nice Jewish girl, who can carry on the family traditions. If you are dating a Jewish man don’t expect to meet his mother, and family, until he has made it very clear that he is serious about you. Being respectful of his mother’s wishes he doesn’t want to upset her by bringing home a shiksa he’s just casually seeing.
If your connection with a Jewish man develops and it grows into a serious relationship don’t expect to be immediately welcomed into the family with open arms. A Jewish mother is likely to test your patience and your commitment and faith before she considers you to be part of her son’s life, regardless of how long you have been together. If a Jewish mother doesn’t approve of you, your relationship has little chance of progressing beyond casual dating.
5. Positive Prospects
Most Jewish men are taught to keep an eye on the future. Many Jewish men have high-powered careers that take priority over any intimate relationship. The Jewish men you may be considering dating are likely to be doctors, lawyers, financial executives and successful entrepreneurs. If you’re looking for a potential partner with positive prospects make sure that you show what you have to offer. Demonstrate your intelligence, sensitivity, compassion, commitment and understanding of Judaism, if you want dating success with a Jewish man.